Growing Pains in Recovery

Growing Pains in Recovery 

By: Troy Hatfield  

There comes a point in recovery when everything just hurts, and emotions feel like they’re all over the place. We cry more than usual, get irritated easily, and sometimes it feels like no one really understands what we’re going through. It’s like walking around with your heart wide open, and everything touches a nerve. This is what a lot of people call “growing pains.” It’s real, and it can be one of the hardest parts of recovery. 

In time, I started learning that real growth comes when we stop running from the pain and start facing it. That’s not easy to do, especially when pain has always felt like something to escape. Leaning into that discomfort, instead of avoiding it, is where things begin to shift. I’ve also learned that sometimes we have to care more about someone’s life than their feelings (and that includes our own). Being honest, even when it’s uncomfortable, can save a life.  

During my recovery journey, one of the best choices I ever made was asking for help. It meant admitting I couldn’t do this on my own. Being honest about where I was and letting others support me made all the difference. 

5 Tips for Getting Through the Growing Pains of Recovery 

1. Talk about it: Don’t bottle it up. Share how you’re feeling with someone safe (sponsor, counselor, mentor, friend). 
2. Stick to your routine: Structure can be a lifesaver. Eat, sleep, move your body, and go to meetings. When emotions are intense, routines help ground you. 
3. Feel your feelings without judging them: You’re allowed to cry, to be angry, and to feel overwhelmed. Let it out in healthy ways. 
4. Ask for help, even if it feels awkward: Reaching out might be uncomfortable at first, but it’s a sign of strength, not weakness. 
5. Lean on your faith or your values: Whether it’s prayer, meditation, or just remembering your “why,” grounding yourself in something bigger can keep you steady. 

Remember… the pain you’re feeling right now isn’t forever. Keep showing up and reaching out. You are growing, you are healing, and you are worth it. 

If your faith is part of your journey, remember this truth: We can do all things through Christ who gives us strength. (Philippians 4:13) 

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